⏳ Why Rushing Feels So Urgent (Even When You Know Better)

I’m coaching four new nurses right now inside the 12-week NurseMoneyDate® Mentorship, and I recognize the look immediately.

It’s not confusion.
It’s not lack of intelligence.

It’s that quiet urgency in their eyes the need to figure everything out right now.

What’s interesting is that if you’re reading this, you’ve already completed the foundational work. You understand the system. You’ve built the habits. And yet… this feeling of rushing still shows up from time to time.

That’s not a regression.
That’s psychology.

Why the urge to rush is so powerful

From a behavioral finance perspective, urgency is often mistaken for motivation.

What’s actually happening underneath:

• Uncertainty activates the nervous system

• The brain looks for quick closure

• Action feels safer than reflection

Rushing creates the illusion of control even when it leads to poorer decisions.

This is especially true for nurses.

You work in environments where:

• speed is rewarded

• decisiveness matters

• hesitation can have consequences

Your brain has learned that slowing down = risk.

So when money feels unclear, your nervous system reaches for the same strategy that’s kept you safe at work: move fast, fix it, decide now.

Why slowing down is harder after you know the tools

Here’s the paradox I see with experienced clients:

Once you know how money works, the pressure to “use it correctly” increases.

You’re no longer rushing because you’re lost.
You’re rushing because you care.

You don’t want to:

• mess it up

• miss an opportunity

• make the “wrong” move

That pressure doesn’t mean you’re behind.
It means your relationship with money has matured.

The behavioral finance piece most people miss

In behavioral finance, one of the most common errors is action bias the tendency to do something rather than nothing, even when waiting leads to better outcomes.

Markets, planning, and long-term wealth all reward:

• patience

• consistency

• tolerance for discomfort

But your nervous system doesn’t get that memo.

It still wants relief now.

What I want to remind you of

If you’ve already completed the mentorship, you are no longer building urgency.

You are building capacity.

Capacity to:

• pause

• observe

• let decisions unfold over time

Slowing down isn’t avoidance.
It’s integration.

A NurseMoneyDate® reminder this week

If you notice yourself rushing, try this question:

“What am I trying to make feel certain right now and do I actually need that certainty today?”

Often, the answer is no.

And choosing to wait is not a failure of discipline.
It’s a sign of trust in yourself and in the system you’ve already built.