🛟 When Financial Avoidance Becomes Self Sabotage
Financial avoidance does not begin as self sabotage.It begins as self protection.
Avoiding bank accounts, unopened statements, or financial decisions is often the nervous system trying to reduce overwhelm in the moment.
But when avoidance becomes a long term pattern, it quietly shifts from protec...
Feb 08, 2026
🙌🏽 Financial Resilience Is Not About Working Harder
It Is About Building Shock Absorbers
Financial resilience is often framed as a mindset issue. As if the answer to financial stress is simply working more, earning more, or being more disciplined.
That framing misses what actually helps people stay stable through real life.Especially nurses. Finan...
Feb 08, 2026
🕯️When the World Feels Unsafe, Money Stops Being Logical
I want to talk about something that’s been weighing on me and I know I’m not alone in this.
We are watching some deeply unsettling things happen right now with ICE and immigration enforcement. Regardless of where you fall politically, there’s a shared undercurrent I keep hearing from clients, fam...
Feb 05, 2026
🌍 When Collective Trauma Reaches Your Wallet
What happened to Alex Pretti has unsettled a lot of people.
Not just emotionally.Not just politically.
But psychologically.
And when something shakes our sense of safety, it doesn’t stop at our thoughts or feelings.It shows up in how we make money decisions, too.
At NurseMoneyDate®, we talk a lot...
Feb 05, 2026
💸 After Financial Fawning: When “Being Easy” Starts Costing You
In the last newsletter, we talked about financial fawning that reflex to smooth things over, avoid conflict, and keep the peace with money.
Saying yes when you mean no.Covering the bill so no one’s uncomfortable.Downplaying your needs so things feel “fine.”
Today, I want to talk about what comes ...
Jan 25, 2026
🧠 Financial Survivor’s Guilt: When Stability Feels Harder Than Scarcity
In 2026, we’re naming another money pattern that quietly shapes behavior, especially for high-empathy, high-responsibility people.
Financial survivor’s guilt.
This is what happens when your financial reality improves, but your nervous system doesn’t know what to do with that safety yet.
You’re no...
Jan 20, 2026
🕊️ Financial Fawning: The Money Pattern We’re Finally Naming in 2026
In 2026, we’re finally naming a financial pattern that has existed for decades but was never given language.
Financial fawning.
For years, personal finance education assumed that if someone struggled with money, the issue was discipline, information, or motivation.
But neuroscience and behavioral...
Jan 20, 2026
⏳ Why Rushing Feels So Urgent (Even When You Know Better)
I’m coaching four new nurses right now inside the 12-week NurseMoneyDate® Mentorship, and I recognize the look immediately.
It’s not confusion.It’s not lack of intelligence.
It’s that quiet urgency in their eyes the need to figure everything out right now.
What’s interesting is that if you’re rea...
Jan 11, 2026
🌱 Your Life Doesn’t Begin After the Goal (and Why That Matters for Your Money)
There’s a psychological trap many high-achieving nurses fall into without realizing it.
It’s called delayed life syndrome, the belief that life will truly begin after a certain condition is met:– after the debt is gone– after the savings number is hit– after the job change– after the burnout ends...
Jan 04, 2026
🧭 The Money Lessons No One Can Teach You (But You Still Have to Learn)
There’s a category of financial wisdom I can’t teach you, no matter how experienced I am, no matter how clearly I explain it.
Psychologists call this an unteachable lesson: a truth that must be experienced to be fully integrated.
Take the question: Does money buy happiness?I can tell you the rese...
Jan 04, 2026
🗓️ Why Money Dates Work (and Why January Matters More Than You Think)
January gives us something rare: psychological permission to begin again.
Behavioral scientists call this the fresh start effect, the tendency for temporal landmarks (new years, birthdays, Mondays) to interrupt old patterns and create motivation for change. For nurses especially: who live in cycl...
Jan 04, 2026