🤝 Can You Buy Friendship?

Short answer: yes. Longer answer: it worked really well.

I’m going to say something mildly unhinged but very true:

I paid for friendship last year.
And it’s been an absolute dream.

No shame. No regret. Five stars.

🧠 Let’s Be Real for a Second

Making friends as an adult is… weird.

You’re busy.
You’ve changed.
You don’t have forced proximity like school, work, or dorm life anymore.

And yet, we’re told:

“Friendships should just happen naturally.”

That’s adorable.
And wildly unrealistic for most adults.

💸 What I Actually Paid For

Last year, I paid for a friendship matchmaking service.

Not dating.
Not networking.
Actual friendship.

Someone asked:

• What I value

• How I spend my time

• What kind of friendships I want to build now, not who I used to be

And then… they matched me.

And honestly?
It’s been one of the best decisions I’ve made.

🔍 Why This Actually Makes Sense (Psychologically)

We already pay for:

• Gyms to build health

• Therapy to build emotional safety

• Coaching to build skills

• Education to build careers

But friendships?
We pretend they’re supposed to fall out of the sky.

Investing money into intentional connection isn’t transactional.
It’s structured support.

You’re paying to remove friction.
To save time.
To be surrounded by aligned people.

That’s not buying friends.
That’s investing in the conditions where friendship can grow.

🧮 The “Math” of It

Here’s the math I actually ran (very on-brand for me):

If I spend money on:

• Travel

• Dinners

• Events

• Experiences

Why wouldn’t I spend money on:

• The people I experience life with?

Loneliness is expensive.
Misaligned friendships are draining.
Isolation costs more than we admit.

Connection?
High ROI.

💬 The Best Part

No awkward small talk.
No forcing chemistry.
No “are we supposed to be friends now?” energy.

Just:

• Ease

• Alignment

• Mutual effort

Which is exactly what adult friendship should feel like.

✨ The Takeaway

You can’t force friendship.
But you can invest in environments that make it more likely.

And if you need permission to spend money on:

• Community

• Belonging

• Joyful connection

This is it.

I bought friends.
It worked.
Zero regrets.

💗 Weekly Reflection

Ask yourself:

• Where am I craving more connection?

• What kind of friendships do I actually want now?

• Would investing in community feel supportive not indulgent?

Money doesn’t just build security.
Sometimes, it builds really good dinners, conversations, and laughter.

And honestly?
That counts.